Some have chosen to live contrary to God’s law concerning marriage and have advocated that marriage is no longer needed being outdated. Seemingly, many want to take a test drive before they agree to the commitment of marriage. Let us never be guilty of treating the one we are considering to marry as if they are an automobile or some man-made object.
Fornication is a broad term and means illicit or unlawful sexual intercourse. It would include such things as adultery (sex with someone other than one’s spouse), homosexuality (sex between persons of the same gender), bestiality (sex between a human and an animal), promiscuity (sex with various partners), paedophilia (sex with a child), and prostitution (sex for money or hire). Thus, fornication is sexual activity outside of its proper place–marriage.
Within the proper context of marriage, sexual activity is sanctioned by God. The Bible says, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Heb 13:4). Sex in and of itself is not the sin. However, sexual activity outside of marriage is fornication, and that is a sin. Listen to what God says about fornication:”Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness;
full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them” (Rom 1:29-32).
“Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind” (1 Cor 6:9).
“Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God” (Gal 5:19-21).
“Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things’ sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience” (Col 3:5-6).
Please notice the association that fornication has with other sins. However, the point is clear. Fornicators will not inherit eternal life.
MARRIAGE Is The Solution
When God created man, He created him with certain appetites such as the sexual urges. God, also, originated a way to fulfill those desires. For the sexual desires, God instituted marriage—one man for one woman until death. An examination of the topic of marriage in the Bible reveals that there are four purposes which God ordained in marriage:
COMPANIONSHIP: In the beginning, God decreed that it was “not good that man should be alone” (Gen 2:18). Thus, God created a help meet for him—a woman to be his companion. Someone to share his joys and his sorrows.
SATISFACTION: Sex hunger is as natural and honorable as food and drinks hunger if it is kept in its proper place—marriage. Paul wrote, “to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband” (1 Cor 7:2). In marriage, a man and a woman can be intimate and, yet, remain spiritually and morally pure.
REPRODUCTION: Marriage is where the home begins for God blessed the first union and said, “Be fruitful and multiply…” (Gen 1:27-28). In this light, “children are a heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is his reward” (Psa 127:3-5).
TRAINING: Since marriage is for reproduction, it is only natural that marriage should be used for the training of those that are procreated. A home with a Christian father and a Christian mother is the best place to raise children. Thus, Paul exhorts parents to “bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Eph 6:4). When raising children with morals and values, we bless our children, ourselves, and the world in which we and they live.
When Jesus spoke of marriage, He taught, “that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female . . . For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matt 19:4-6).
The “one flesh” in this passage and others have reference in part to the sexual relationship of a husband and his wife. Sex is fully commended in marriage and fully condemned outside of the marriage relationship.
Conclusion: The very purpose of living together declares its most basic weakness. If its purpose is sexual, then it is opposed to God and morality. If its purpose is a trial for marriage, then it lacks commitment. This lack of commitment causes it to fail from its onset.
Living together sets up a relationship for failure. There is no real or clear commitment. It involves no legal or social responsibilities. There is no public pronouncement nor pledge. It is for the moment while marriage is “until death do us part.”