How can adultery ever be condoned and called loving and wholesome? There are 17 specific sins listed in Galatians 5:19-21, one of which is adultery. While the sins are not listed alphabetically or sequential, adultery is the very first one mentioned. It is listed right along with murder among the 17 and Paul ends by saying, “They which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” Can “murder” ever be described as “wholesome”? God equates adultery just as bad as murder!
To those who have committed adultery, or are “thinking about it,” what about the “Golden Rule” as set forth by Jesus (Matt 7:12)? It says we should do unto others as we would have them do unto us. Well, would you want your spouse to commit adultery against you?
I have heard people justify adultery by saying, “But am I not entitled to happiness?” Will your adultery make your spouse happy? Remember your wedding vows — “As long as we both shall live” NOT “As long as we both are happy”.
Marriage is not all about your happiness. Marriage is a commitment two people make before God and man, and each vow to one another to be faithful to one another until death. Remember saying, “To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part?” “What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (Mk 10:9).
Let’s be perfectly clear, God does not unite an adulterous marriage. God does not unite same sex marriages. God unites those who have never before been married. God unites marriage where the woman lost her husband in death (1 Cor 7:39). God unites marriage where the man divorces his previous wife for the cause of fornication (Matt 5:32 f; Matt 19:9). Remember, GOD HATES DIVORCE! (Mal 2:16)
Men, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it, and be not bitter against them (Eph 5:25 f; Col 3:19). Women, love, reverence, and submit to your husband even as unto Christ (Eph 5:22, 33 f; Tit 2:4). True happiness comes in keeping the commandments of the Lord! (Prov 29:18)