It has been often said that when a person assumes anything that they make an “Ass” out of “U”and “Me”. It’s a valid point with mankind and it’s a deadly point to make with God. To put it bluntly, mankind should never assume anything when it comes to God’s Word. Yet, mankind does so with regularity. Never more does man assume more than when it comes to divorce and remarriage.
God’s Marriage Law
Mankind assumes many things when it comes to God’s marriage law. The denominational world assumes Jesus gave more than one exception when it comes to divorce and remarriage. The church itself assumes Jesus changed the law of Moses which prohibited women from divorcing their husbands but was bound to her husband for life. Read it, and I mean over and over and over and over again. You will never find Jesus ever saying a woman could divorce her husband if he had committed fornication and then remarry another man. What Jesus said was this, “…Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication (sexual immorality), and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoso marries her which is put away (divorced) commits adultery” (Matt 19:9 cf; 5:32). To make any assumption on this subject nulls and voids what the Holy Spirit revealed unto the beloved apostle Paul, that women were bound to their husband as long as her husband lived. He actually said this twice, which makes it even more potent. “A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord” (1 Cor 7:39 cf; Rom 7:2,3).
Yes, we live in an adulterous world. People want to marry and divorce for any reason whatsoever. What can I say, people just want to have fun. However, Jesus didn’t increase the amount of people who can legally divorce and remarry but decreased it. Under the law of Moses, man was allowed to divorce his wife for any reason (Deut 24:1-4). Even this allowance by Moses was not so from the beginning (Matt 19:7,8). God intended man and woman to be married for life (Matt 19:4-6). Thus, when Jesus gave the man only one reason for divorce, “fornication”, this decreased all the reasons why a man could divorce his wife and remarry to only one solitary reason. When it came to women, Paul made it abundantly clear that she was bound to her husband as long as he lived. If perchance he died, his widow could only remarry “in the Lord”.
I am not concerned about the denominational world. They are lost having not obeyed the gospel of Christ. Therefore, if they commit adultery, so what. If they don’t commit adultery, so what. They are lost either way. No, I am not concerned how many times the world commits adultery. However, I am concerned about baptized believing Christians who are faithful in the Lord, except when it comes to their adulterous marriages.
Don’t lose your soul on the false assumption that Jesus liberated women to be equal with man when it comes to divorce and remarriage. First of all, women are not equal with man when it comes to God’s Word. As God is the head of Christ, and Christ is ahead of man, so man is the head of woman (1 Cor 11:3). When man is unfaithful to God, God spiritually divorces him. When woman is unfaithful to her husband, the man can physically divorce his wife.
Man is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. As the church is subject to Christ, even so the wife is subject to her husband in everything (Eph 5:23,24). In the church, women are also subject to men. The elders of the church are to be men. The deacons of the church are to be men (1 Tim 3:1-13). The preachers and teachers are to be men (2 Tim 2:2). Men hold all leadership roles and women are to remain silent (1 Cor 14:33-40). Men were commanded to go into all the world and preach the gospel (Mt 28:19,20 f; Mk 16:16). Women were commanded to bear and love their children, be chaste keepers at home, obeying and loving their husband. (Tit 2:4,5).
Even so, with leadership comes much responsibility. When it comes to marriage, if man divorces his wife and she commits no fornication, he has caused his wife to commit adultery and the man she marries. If he remarries in such a condition, he has committed adultery and has caused his new wife to commit adultery as well.
Isn’t it amazing, when one takes away false assumptions and allows God’s Word to speak for itself, all the pieces fit in place. Remember this, God’s Word doesn’t lie and is not complicated (Heb 6:18 f; 2 Cor 11:3). The wise seemingly think they are smarter than God and can find a loop hole in His Word. The simple minded don’t assume, they obey what they hear. Perhaps this is why God has hid his Word from the wise and prudent and revealed it unto babes (Matt 11:25). When it comes to marriage, divorce, and remarriage tread carefully. Do what God actually said and assume nothing! Why? Because NO ADULTERER shall inherit the kingdom of God (1 Cor 6:9 f; Ga 5:19).