All women were commanded, even as men, to obey the gospel of Christ. In this regard, we are all the same, for their is neither male or female in the sight of God (Gal 3:28). However, this is where the similarities end and the differences begin when it comes to men and women’s duties in the Lord.
Women have had a full time occupation since the dawn of creation_taking care of the home. No, it is not the same job their husbands, their brothers, or their fathers have. Nevertheless, it is a job that God gave all women to do.
First of all, without Christian women doing their job, their is no church. This is a biblical fact! Women are part of the foundation of the church itself. If women did not marry a Christian man, there would be no elders or deacons. If they did not bear them children, there would be no elders or deacons. If they did not teach their children well, being in subjection to their own parents and obeying the gospel, there would be no elders and deacons (1 Tim 3:1-13). Without elders, who is to feed the church of Christ and guard it against false teachers and preachers? (Acts 20:28-31).
Therefore, it is very imperative that women marry Christian men and bear them children. Notice the words which Paul wrote to Titus, “The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becomes holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Tit 2:3-5). Also read this admonition to Timothy, “ I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully (1 Tim 5:14).
In the assembly, women were commanded not to be speakers or leaders (1 Cor 14:33-40 f; 1 Tim 2:11-14). If they learned, it was to be in silence. If they had questions, they were to be asked of their own husband. Yes, women were commanded to sing, but not to lead the singing. They were to learn, but not to teach or ask questions. They were to pray, but silently. They were commanded to remember the Lord’s death and to give, but not to wait on tables.
Women were prohibited from teaching or seizing the authority of man, even her own husband, but she is to teach her own children (1 Tim 2:12 f; 1 Pet 3:1). Yes, women are to learn the word of God (2 Tim 2:15). They are to study God’s Word but for a different mission. They are not to go into all the world and spread the gospel. They are to teach their own children in the home, and bring them up in the admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:1,2 f; Col 3:20).
I find too many women wanting to do the work of men while neglecting the work God instructed them to fulfill. Yes, women can assist their husband in his duty to preach, but she cannot take on his role of preaching. Yes, women can assist their husband in his duty to lead, but she cannot take on his role to be an elder or deacon. Women were created to be helpers to their own husband, and in that role she can satisfy the commandments God gave unto her (Gen 2:18). Outside of that role women violate the commandments of God.
We are not all preachers. We are not all teachers. We are not all elders. We are not all deacons. We are not all song leaders (Eph 4:11). We all have a calling from God to fulfill. That calling for Christian women is in the home. She is commanded to marry, to bear children, to teach and to love her children, to love and obey her own husband and to be an assistant to him, and to live a good and moral life before God. This is good and acceptable with God.