Today we are seeing things like men marry men and women marry women, and as Christians we all know that this is an illegal union in the sight of God. However, there are many other kinds of illegal unions which have nothing to do with being gay. Let us look at a few.
First of all, a safe union is between one man and one woman who have never been married. They have God’s approbation (Heb 13:4). However, there is one marriage more safer than this, that being between, one Christian man and one Christian woman who have never been married.
All other unions carry high risks. For instance, one Christian man who has never been married marrying a woman who is not a Christian. The danger here is that the Christian man may be lead astray. Yes, the Christian man might persuade his non-Christian wife to become a Christian, but this doesn’t always happen and the children often follow the unsaved spouse.
Then there is the Christian man who has never been married who marries a divorcee. The bible specifically says if a woman has a living husband and she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress (Rom 7:2,3 f; 1 Cor 7:39). Therefore, any man who marries a divorcee is committing adultery.
What about the single Christian woman who marries a man who has been divorced? This is where more danger arises. A man can divorce his wife and remarry if the “CAUSE” was for fornication (Mt 5:32 f; Mt 19:9). Notice that Jesus never said a man can divorce his wife and remarry is she has committed fornication. No! The reason for the divorce must be the fornication. So, if a man divorces his wife cause they can’t get along and then after the divorce discovers she had been unfaithful to him while they were married, this is not a legal reason for him to get remarried. If the cheating woman divorces her husband for whatever reason, but the husband didn’t want the divorce despite her infidelity, this is not reason for him to remarry.
What if a woman divorces her first husband because of spousal abuse and then years later he dies, can she be remarried? No! Why? Because the scriptures said her ‘husband’ must be dead in order to remarry. If she divorced him, he is no longer her husband. Therefore, she must be currently married to her husband, and then if he dies she would be eligible to remarry. It must also be noted that if a woman’s husband dies, she can only remarry a Christian man (only in the Lord) (1 Cor 7:39).
What about sinners who have been married and divorced illegally? If they are converted, does baptism allow them to remarry. The answer is NO! Baptism verily washed away their illegal marriage(s). However, if they repented, they will not go back to sinning once again. The same application is made to the Christian of many years who marries and divorces illegal. They too have forgiveness of sins. However, they also must put away any illegal marriage and never remarry. If they marry illegal and continue in it, they too are living in sin. A Christian must put away their sins and walk in the newness of life (Rom 6:4).
Then there is the pitfall of liars. Those who say they have never been married and divorced or were married and divorced because of a cheating wife, but were not. I write this to all Christians everywhere, if you are married, remain married. If your spouse is dead, then you are eligible to marry someone who has never been married or who also is a widower. Caution there too. Make sure they had no other previous spouses.
God intended marriage for one man and one woman for life. If your spouse be dead, it is better to remain unmarried and give your service to God. However, if you cannot contain, it is better to marry than to burn in hell (1 Cor 7:9). If you must remarry, make double sure that the one you are marrying is eligible for marriage. Believe me when I say this, your soul will pay for your mistake if they are not!