Speaking where the bible speaks, and silent where the bible is silent.

Biblical Proof

A man can be a Christian, and not be a husband, a father, or even a good teacher. However, he can’t a be an elder, who must be a good father, a good husband and a good teacher to his children. The Scriptures require a man to be a good and successful father before he can serve as an elder. That is one of the qualifications (1 Tim. 3:4,5 f; Tit. 1:6).

A successful father must first be a successful husband. That means he must be married according to the Scriptures and maintaining a good and successful relationship with his wife. The word of God sets forth the high and holy standard for husband and wife relationship and he must be a successful husband. His relationship with his wife must be so endearing that she is willing to submit herself to him. His relationship with his children must be so loving and caring that his children are willing to obey him. A man is thus qualified in his family relationship to be what Christ requires of one to be a bishop in the Lord’s church.

He willingly accepts his responsibility in all areas of life. He loves his wife and his children. He loves and reveres God and his word. He is one who prays to God often. He reads and studies the Bible daily and teaches his children to do so. His home is a haven of peace in all areas.

Fathers must provide for their wives and children (1 Tim. 5:8). The teaching and discipline of children rest upon the shoulders of fathers with the help of their godly wives. In doing so they must not “provoke to anger,” but bring them up in the chastening of the Lord (Eph. 6:4 ff; Col. 3:21; Heb. 12:9). Chastening is important to being a successful father (Prov. 13:24; 23:13). A successful father teaches his children to love and respect one another, and sets the example before them.

Even as Christ is a good husband to his wife, the church, even so an elder must be a good husband to his wife. He must be willing, even as Jesus, to die for his wife (Eph 5:25). A good and qualified elder first begins in his own house long before he rules the house of God. Obey qualified elders who have rule over you, for they truly care for your soul (Heb 13:7,17).


Comments on: "Qualified Elders Begin In The Home" (2)

  1. What about the elder who has believing children from his wife but unfortunately the wife dies and he marries another but does not have any children from her? Does he still qualify to remain an elder? If not, then why is he still recognized as such by his sponsoring church and missionaries based in the USA? These missionaries and church(es) are considered to be conservative in their interpretation of the Scriptures. I am greatly troubled by the situation but I’m alone in this since he has been the leader of the congregation for 5 decades.

    • The bible said that an elder must be the husband of one wife. It didn’t say one wife at a time. No where in the NT does it ever say a man can be have multiple wives, that being, polygamy. All Christian men are to have one wife at a time, so to say what is required of all Christian men wouldn’t make sense in an elder’s or deacon’s requirements. Therefore, it is a mute point as to whether or not the new couple had children. If one is to believe an elder can have multiple wives in life and still be an elder, then of necessity, they too must have believing children together. Good point!!

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