Christ’s law on marriage is not that hard to understand. Let me say it again: Christ’s marital law is not that hard to understand. Yes, there are difficult questions which arise regarding complicated circumstances into which men get themselves. However, a safe course can always be found. The practice of divorce was an ancient and traditional custom, which Moses allowed for the hardness of their heart. Jesus made marriage a lifetime bond, and allowed divorce only on grounds of fornication (Matt. 5:31-32; 19:3-9; Mk. 10:11; Lk. 16:18).
Men seem obsessed with finding loopholes in the marriage law given by Christ. Some want to broaden Christ’s law, and some want to make it even stricter. Some want to conform to this modern age. Paul warned the Romans against being “conformed to this world” or “age.” Instead of trying to change the will of Christ, they were to be “transformed” or changed by it (Rom. 12:1-2).
Some who are in adulterous unions or wish to enter such sinful relationships seem to think that if they can just find a preacher or elder to approve, all will be well! So they go from preacher to preacher and elder to elder until… sure enough, they find one who says, “Yes, I think in your case, it will be all right.” Sometimes such parties lie to a preacher in order to get him to “say a ceremony,” apparently thinking if they fool the preacher they have fooled God. They seem to think it works like this: What man hath joined together, God must recognize. The truth is that when they are bound to an original mate by God’s law, no man on earth can unjoin them and rejoin them to new mates. The law of God stands no matter how many “magic formulas” some ungodly preacher mutters in a ceremony. “Fornicators and adulterers God will judge” (Heb. 13:3)
If God’s law on marriage “runs people off,” then so be it. We are not allowed to change God’s law to please men. In Luke 16:1-18, Jesus uses His law on marriage as an example of something the Pharisees would not be willing to obey. This law would be a barrier to them entering “the kingdom of God.” But Christ did not change His law “to attract them” or “to keep them, and then maybe we can help them later.” The same message that converted 3,000 in Acts 2 turned men into raging murderers in Acts 7. If men do not want God’s word, God will deal with them, but He will not change His word to please them.
The changes some seek in the strictness of Christ’s law just “happen to fit” the “needs” of someone in their family, a friend ‘ or themselves. No matter how much we claim to love our family and friends, we cannot change God’s law for them. Their true need is to submit to Christ’s teaching, no matter what the cost; true love will do all in its power to get them to submit to Christ (1 Jn. 5:1-3). If Christ’s law offends them, we must remember Christ told us to expect this in many cases: “I came not to send peace, but a sword. . . . And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household” (Matt. 10:34).
There is a false premise that those outside the Lord’s kingdom are not held accountable for breaking the law of Christ. But that is the only law God has put into effect today. If the unconverted are not held responsible or guilty for breaking it, then they are as perfectly innocent as new-born babes. If the unconverted are “sinners,” then they have transgressed “the law” – the law of Christ, the only divine law in effect during the Gospel Age (1 Jn. 3:4; Gal. 6:2).
No matter what the cost, we must submit to the law of Christ. “He that findeth his life shall lose it; and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it” (Matt. 10:39). We shall all be “judged by the law of liberty” – the law of Christ. We must look “into the perfect law of liberty,” continue “therein,” and “fulfill the royal law” in order to please Christ (Jas. 1:25; 2:8f). A man who keeps “the whole law” except for his continuing in an adulterous relationship, “is guilty of all” (Jas. 2:10-11).
Many have violated Christ’s law on marriage; only when they realize they are guilty of this and other sins, will they come for cleansing in the blood. Christ’s law must constantly be taught to Christians “to stir you up by putting you in remembrance” (2 Pet. 1:13; 3:1-2). Christ’s marital law is as binding now as it was then. It can prevent one from obeying the gospel, and it can be a stumbling block to those who have already obeyed the gospel but continue in an adulterous marriage. Brethren, Christ’s marital law is not hard to understand. What is hard to understand is why so many brethren are choosing the pleasures of sin for a season. Remember this, NO ADULTERER SHALL INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD! 1 Cor 6:9 f; Gal 5:19-21