It is amazing how many Christians think that they can please God while despising fellow brethren. A Christian is never more elevated than when they are kneeling down to help a sister or brother in the faith. In fact, we can’t love God until we first love fellow brethren. As God loved the world, as Christ loved us, even so must we love our brethren.
The Love of Jesus
Jesus left heaven to come to a place of sorrow and sin. For 33 years He lived among men doing good. He healed the sick, made the blind to see, made the lame to walk, restored lepers, cast out demons, and even raised the dead. He preached the gospel of God’s love for mankind, calling upon men to repent and obey the Word of God.
Because the common people heard him gladly, the Jewish leaders became jealous of Jesus and plotted His death. They paid Judas Iscariot to betray Him into their evil hands. They brought forth false witnesses in Jesus’ trials to accuse him unjustly, and then delivered him to Pilate to be crucified. They nailed Him to a cross, and then stood around to watch Him die. They mocked and ridiculed Him, hurling abusive language toward the sinless Son of God.
Jesus endured the cross because He loved us so much. As He said, “Greater love has no man than this that a man lay down his life for his friends; And you are my friends if you do whatsoever I command you.” Jn 15:13,14 Jesus suffered the pain of Calvary, its physical suffering and humiliation, in order that you and I might be delivered from sin.
Love One Another
The love which Jesus displayed for us is the kind of love which He commanded us to show one another. The apostle John wrote: “Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought to love one another.” (1 Jn. 4:11) We love him, because he first loved us. If a man say, I love God, and hates his brother, he is a liar: for he that loves not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he had not seen? And this commandment have we from him, That we who loves God love his brother also. Whosoever believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God: and every one that loves him that begat him also that is begotten of him (1 Jn. 4:19-5:1).
Sometimes we act as if love is some warm, mushy romantic feeling which we have toward someone else. That is the weakest of love for soon it fades and can even turn to pure hatred. Love is more than some warm feeling of endearment, and should be obvious from the divine command to love one’s enemies (Matt. 5:44). The good Samaritan obviously did not have such warm feelings toward the man who fell among thieves. He did not even know him. Yet, he demonstrated love toward his neighbor (Lk. 10:25-37). Love is an act of the will, not of the emotions. It demonstrates itself by what it does as opposed to what it says. In reading 1 Corinthians 13, Paul’s unparalleled description of love, notice that Paul used verbs and not adjectives to describe love. He described love by showing us what love does as opposed to how love feels: “Love suffers long, and is kind; Love envies not; Love vaunts not itself, is not puffed up, does not behave unseemly, seeks not her own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil; rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” Love never fails….now abides faith, hope, love but the greatest of these is love. (1 Cor 13:4-7,13).
John emphasized the same truth when he wrote, “My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth” (1 Jn. 4:18). John was not criticizing the expression of love. If a person loves someone else, he should tell them. However, love goes much beyond the mere expression of words. It reveals itself by its deeds.
The mother who tenderly nurses her sick child back to health is showing her love. The woman who cares for her father-in-law who is aged and can’t take care of himself properly shows her love. The woman who cooks and cleans for her husband no matter how abusive he is to her, shows her love. The man who provides for his wife and takes care of his families’ needs, shows his love. These acts show love in deed and in truth.
Our love toward one another should demonstrate itself. John wrote, “Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoso has this world’s good, and sees his brother have need, and shuts up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwells the love of God in him?” (1 Jn. 3:16-17).
Human compassion toward one another should characterize the saints. Barnabas by selling his property to relieve the needs of his brethren showed his love. (Acts 4:36-37). How many of us would be willing to sell our car or house in order to relieve the suffering of our unemployed brother? How many preachers go in want because of Christians who have much share not in the preaching and burden of spreading the gospel? How many have even consider doing such?
We should demonstrate love in our relationships within the local church. Sometimes the church possesses hypocrites who say that they love God, but in reality they hate God for they hate their fellow brethren. Envy, jealousy, bitterness, abusive speech, gossip, suspicion, and evil surmising sometimes are rampant in the local church. I can recall once seeing a man who was ragged and starved who was turned away by the church. It shamed some of its members so badly that they privily took money out of their own pockets and gave it to the man. Peter said, “. . . for love shall cover the multitude of sins” (1 Pet. 4:8). Paul added, “And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also you are called in one body; and be you thankful” (Col. 3:15).
Because some brethren with inadequate understanding of love might judge otherwise, we need to emphasize that rebuking a sinner in the hope of causing him to repent is an act of love. Sometimes men conclude that elders hate a brother from whom they lead the congregation in withdrawing fellowship; others conclude that bitterness and hatred exist when one brother rebukes the false doctrine taught by another brother. Both are mistaken. Men take the time to call these errors to the attention of the erring brother for the express purpose of leading him to repentance. Such men love the soul of the erring brother and want to see him in heaven. Consequently, when they see him err from the truth, they seek to restore him to the Lord.
Brotherly Love Is Evidence Of Our Salvation
John repeatedly used brotherly love as a criterion for determining whether or not one was saved. “He that says he is in the light, and hates his brother, is in darkness even until now. He that loves his brother abides in the light, and there is none occasion of stumbling in him (1 Jn. 2:9-10). “In this the children of God are made known, and the children of the devil: whosoever does not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loves not his brother” (1 Jn. 3:10). We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. “He that loves not his brother abides in death. Whosoever hates his brother is a murderer: and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him.” (1 Jn. 3:14-15) “Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loves is born of God, and knows God.” (1 Jn. 4:7).
The knowledge that we have brotherly love gives our heart assurance and confidence before God (1 Jn. 3:19). The person who feels bitterness, hatred, variance, and strife toward his brother surely must question his personal salvation before God. The brother who backbites, gossips, spreads rumors and malicious lies about his brother surely must know that he is lost, regardless of how highly regarded he might be by some brethren. To have a genuine assurance of salvation, let each of us manifest brotherly love toward each other.
Conclusion: Love is not what we say or feel, but what we do for one another. The greatest love we can show to one another is when we teach anyone the gospel of Christ or correct an errand brother or sister. Jam 5:19,20 There are not many who care enough for our soul that they would give up everything just to teach you the truth of God. A love so strong that they are willing to become an enemy in your eyes just to save your soul. Gal 4:16
Yes, love will feed and clothe you. Yes, love will shelter you from the cold and heat. Yet, the greatest love of all is to feed one the truth of God, and deliver them from the heat of hell and damnation. Paul said, “Brethren, my heart’s desire and prayer to God for Israel is, that they might be saved.” Rom 10:1 Paul said he would give his very soul if Israel could be saved. Rom 9:3 If you ever find anyone who loves you as much as God loved the world, as much as Christ loved us, or as much as Paul loved Israel, you have found the greatest love of all. We are commanded to love our husband and wife, our children, our neighbor, our brethren, and even our enemies. If we can’t love them, then we can’t love God, and if we love not God we can’t be saved. A fleshly love at best will last a lifetime, but the spiritual love God described will last for an eternity. This is how God wants us to love the brotherhood.